Why Most Self-Help Readers Buy Again and Again

Whether it’s self-help dating advice, to sexuality to overcoming social shyness & anxiety. It’s tempting to buy these products again after the first time buy. What’s the reason behind it?

The reason is the books and products are based on satisfying an insecurity.

They don’t work on handling the insecurity, they work on providing the demand it creates.

A classic advice I’ve seen on several different dating/sex ebook:

“If the woman says ‘not tonight’ punish her by giving her less attention. When she does something you like reward her and give her more attention.”

My question is…if she doesn’t want to have sex tonight why do you feel the need to act on it? The basis of it being…she says “not tonight” guy feels that ping of rejection, and to compensate for it uses a mental “combat” technique.

If you didn’t catch it, the technique feeds his insecurity. They see your insecurity and start egging it on And…creates a self-perpetual loop that’s hard to get out of.

A lot of these books provide great advice, the unfortunate thing is “feeding insecurity” is weaved in so you’re always looking for ways to stay ahead of the “game”. When actually it’s just a loop, being the illusion that you’re ahead.

Making the buyer want more. Makes you want more of the same re-packaged products.

Who is the target of such tactics? Because the message being delivered is “you need to stay ahead” shy, socially awkward or introverted men tend to buy again and again.

How do I kno? I read several ebooks and watched almost a dozen programs on dating & relationships…what I found is most of them SUCK! Nonetheless these books and programs are still selling.

I still have to see a book or program that advises “Here is the technique that make women BEG to be with you. If she doesn’t want to have sex with you on a regular basis then probably you two have a deeper underlying issue. Just leave it and end on a good note. The reason being, you will get more women than you’ll be able to handle with these techniques so don’t waste time playing status games.”

Why would you “pretend” to walk away as a threat? Simply leave on good terms so you guys can keep in touch.

Find advice that focuses on deeper issues to escape from that insecurity “loop”. The brains we have today isn’t so different from the brains people had 40 years ago. Regardless of culture and time we still play out the same games from thousands of years ago.

It’s still a mating game, it’s still a status game, getting acceptance etc…

There’s more innate and more powerful wiring inside of us to work with. These “wiring” provides more effective strategies than your surface level techniques that you have to constantly replenish.

I won’t refer you to it yet but I wrote an ebook on the deeper more powerful aspects of self-help and social dynamics. Check out some of my articles and if you think they make sense and you’re ready then you can check out what the ebook has to offer because IT’S NOT for everyone.

You can check them out here at surfsocialwaves.com/blog

Hope this help!

Your friend,

Chris C.